TAMIK REALZ 08 – Love YOU first. Don’t willingly put yourself in 2nd place.

So I was talking to my friend the other day about a situation she is in and asked me what she should do.  Okay so here’s the situation my friend is having. She has a male friend that she has known for years. They have become vest friends and decided to take it to the next level. Now one of the problems is that he has been locked up for a big chunk of their relationship. The other problem is that he also has another girl that he wants to be with. Know unlike most men he was honest he told her that before he gives himself completely to her he wants to get the other girl out of his system. Now so far that sounds simple right?


Well the complicated part comes in when he says even though he wants to be with other girl he still wants to see her (intimately). Now my friend said she loves him but told him to go be with her, but she didn’t know what to say to the second half of his request which was to still see her in the side.  She asked me what she should do.


I told her that she was right to tell him to go be with her. It makes no sense to be with a man that has feelings for someone else. Now, for the second part of his request. I told No!!!!!!!!. She asked me why and I told her one is you should never willing walk into a ratchet situation. If you are dealing with a man and he has someone else stay away because at some point the other women will find out and then you have some crazy chick stalking you on facebook , instagram, or calling your phone trying to find out who you are. The second reason is don’t do to others that you wouldn’t want done to you. If you don’t want another women sleeping with your man, than you shouldn’t do it. And third love you self more than you love a man. If a man out right ask you to be his side chick that clearly means he does not love you he’s just being greedy.


Now if I’m wrong please let me know.



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